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  • Secrets on How to Find The Way When Writing

    Secrets on How to Find The Way When Writing

    Book Review: Serious Writers Never Quit

    Book Review:
    A Serious Writer Never Quits:  They Find the Way

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    A few months ago, I started writing my second book.  Although I have the formula I used in writing my first book, Time to Refresh, I set out to find the secrets on how to make the writing process better.

    As with lots of long-term writing projects, I got lost in the messy middle.  Before I knew it, I was busier than ever.  Managing my writing business, along with the writing classes I teach at a local community college, took time away from writing my book.  Finally, I stopped writing the book to close out a few projects.

    Feeling disappointed about being behind schedule, I read Bryan Hutchinson’s book, Serious Writers Never Quit:  They Find The Way.  Full of insights and tips on writing, I found the boost I needed to get back to writing my book.  Because of Serious Writer’s Never Quit, I see my writing routine in an entirely different light.  If you are at a crossroads in your writing process I recommend Serious Writers Never Quit.

    Book Review: Serious Writers Never Quit
    Serious Writers Never Quit: The Find The Way

    Understanding The Way

    When I started reading Serious Writers Never Quit, I was no stranger to the author’s work.  Last year I read two of Hutchinson’s other books,  Inspired Writer: How to Create Magic With Your Words and Writer’s Doubt: The #1 Enemy of Writing (and What You Can Do About It).  All of Hutchinson’s books on writing are a combination of pep talks and a gentle kick-in-the-pants.  More importantly, Hutchinson’s books read like a casual conversation full of advice from one writer to another.

    In the book, Hutchinson introduces the reader to the idea of The Way, “the strength within you that some people call inner power, mental toughness, willpower, or blind faith.  This power is within all of us, and we have to learn how to draw from it and wield it.”  According to Hutchinson, using The Way liberates the writer’s creativity.  As a writer who advocates change, I agree with the book’s message.

    Serious Writers Never Quit is 93 pages long.  Hutchinson arranged the book into 12 chapters.  In each chapter, he explains how serious writers understand, manage, and embrace The Way.  He explains that writing is not about perfection, grammar, or punctuation.  Instead, writing is about, “Putting together words that matter to you.  And to do that, to not succumb to your internal critic and to all the external noises trying ever so hard to make you stop and give up.”

    Lessons Learned

    Once I understood the idea of serious writing, as explained by Hutchinson throughout the book, I started to see my writing life as an ever-evolving process full of potential and possibility; I was ready to move forward.  While the entire book is full of insights on writing and finding The Way, here are a few lessons I learned:

    1. The Way is Never Perfect (Chapter 3)
      Hutchinson reminded me to stop focusing on being perfect.  Yes, I could do better, but the most important thing is to keep writing.  The best advice from Hutchinson, “Great work isn’t perfect.  It’s finished.”  Amen!
    2. The Way is not to Overthink It (Chapter 5)
      In this chapter, the author stresses the importance of not overthinking the writing process because it stifles creativity and flow.  Hutchinson’s best advice, “It’s okay to struggle if you keep moving.”
    3. This is What Real Focus Looks Like (Chapter 7)
      According to Hutchinson, real focus involves taking the phone off the hook, letting friends know you are busy, and missing out on weekly group activities.  A key point to remember: “When locked in, everything becomes irrelevant until the game is over.”

     

    The most satisfying part of the book is in Chapter 11 when Hutchinson wrote, “Everything you’ve done or not done up to this point no longer matters.  Let it all go.” Boom, there it was!  For weeks I felt behind schedule and disappointed in my writing progress. But no more.  I let those feelings go immediately. The day after reading Serious Writers Never Quit, I starting writing my book again, and this review for my blog.

    Moving Forward

    Before closing out the book, Hutchinson leaves the reader with a list of lessons to remember.  He encourages the reader to use the list when feeling doubtful or unmotivated about writing.  This list, as well as the entire book, showed me how to move forward in my book-writing process.

    If you are stuck in your writing or want to take your writing routine to the next level, I would recommend Serious Writers Never Quit and the rest of Hutchinson’s books on writing.  I promise you that if you read Serious Writers Never Quit with an open mind, you will come away with a new feeling of determination and strength to finish every writing project you start.

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  • Awesome Lessons Learned Writing About that First Cancer Year

    Awesome Lessons Learned Writing About that First Cancer Year

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    I am so pleased to present Antoinette Truglio Martin’s guest post about the 5 lessons she learned writing about her cancer journey.  Antoinette is the author of, Hug Everyone You Know: A Year of Community, Courage, and Cancer.  I hope you enjoy.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

    Lessons learned while writing about that first cancer year

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    During the first year of breast cancer treatment, I had journaled all of my rage, angst, gratitude, and plans. I also emailed my family and friends (My Everyone), who really wanted to know how I was doing, so I did not have to hear or say those cancer words any more than necessary. I thought that once I had completed the treatment, I would write a memoir. It would be a whimsical tale complete with humor and a happy ending (I survived). For years, I took out the journal and collection of emails, compiled, organized, then abandoned the whole project. There was too much fear I did not want to relive. I put everything away, believing it was a story I did not have to tell. I was healthy, a bit wiser, and happy to live my life without that menace.

    Then, within five years, I was diagnosed with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer (MBC). This is the forever cancer that eventually kills. Now I was terrified.

    I resurrected the journal and emails and read through that epic year. I looked for proof that I could navigate this new diagnosis.

    The act of writing revealed simple revelations that saw me through the fear and treatments five years before. Writing confirmed the courage I had then and the strength I need to draw upon now. Here are some of the lessons I learned.
    Lessons learned while writing about that first cancer year

    1.  Laughter was truly medicinal.

    Writing and reading back about the days’ chuckles was key to keeping my spirits lifted and courage honed. The emails were filled with amusing anecdotes, and my journal entries retold funny moments.

    2.  I acknowledged the perks of chemotherapy and radiation treatments.

    I had lost weight (I had plenty to spare) without feeling I was missing anything. I was so lucky that my hair thinned out to an almost normal thickness. It actually looked like it had a style and was in control.

    3.  I wrote about how valuable my family and friendships were during this tough time.

    I was invited out on lunch dates, a movie, or just sit around on a couch with a glass of wine (or ice water). I noted our schemes for the future and did not have to talk about cancer or treatments. They kept me in the loop. I did not have to repeat the story over and over again since they read the emails.

     

    4.  Each time I had to see my oncologist, nurse, or specialist, I brought my journal and turned to my list of questions and concerns.

    They patiently repeated, worked around my wimpy quirks, and handed me tissues with a smile and a hug. I felt safe and wrote how much I appreciated their time, attention, and compassion.

     

    5.  My journal entries included the awe of sunsets, how my dog greeted me, and the satisfaction of doing a job well.

    A warm afternoon inspired a walk around the corner. Gratitude provided a positive outlook. Each day I could get up, do a job, see people I love, and hug everyone I knew, was a great day. Every day is a gift. It still is.

    About the Author

    Antoinette Truglio Martin is a life-long Long Islander, teacher, wife, mother, daughter, and friend. She is the author of Hug Everyone You Know: A Year of Community, Courage, and Cancer—a memoir chronicling her first year battling breast cancer as a wimpy patient. Personal experience essays and excerpts of her memoir were published in Bridges, Visible Ink, and The Southampton Review. Martin proudly received her MFA in creative writing and literature from Stony Brook/Southampton University in 2016.  Follow her at Facebook and her website.

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  • How to Overcome Obstacles in Writing my Next Book

    How to Overcome Obstacles in Writing my Next Book

    Chalkboard with text about focus on the goal not the obstacles

     

    Have you ever wondered what obstacles there are in writing a book?  Before writing my first book, I never could have imagined the highs and lows I would experience in writing a book.  But I learned and quick.

    This post outlines what I experienced and how I overcame obstacles in writing my next book.

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    Obstacle #1 – Figure out my ‘goal’ for writing book #2 

    My reason for writing Time to Refresh was clear:  Show readers how I renewed my mind following my third job layoff.  At the time, I wasn’t concerned about making money, seeing my book in stores, or making the bestseller list.  All I wanted was to get my thoughts out of my head and organized into a book.

     

    Since the first book, I know the importance of incorporating SMART goals in the book writing process.   Besides, I researched book marketing by reading, The Book Marketing Audit and learned about setting goals based on the costs associated with producing a book.  The Book Marketing Audit outlined the following categories which I considered in writing my new book:

     

    • Glory and fame – The satisfaction of seeing my book on bookshelves, read by book clubs, or honored by literary organizations.

     

    • Build a fan base – Answering the call made by Time to Refresh readers to write something new and just as satisfying.

     

    • Earn a certain amount of money per year – Catapult my new writing career into an annual salary.

     

    • Building my brand for my business – Before finishing my book, I started my own writing business to help companies and people write better content.

     

    • Break-even – Make enough money to cover the cost of writing, producing, distributing, and promoting my book.

     

    Time to do the math

    I decided on two goals:  (1) Break-even; and (2) Earn a certain amount of money per year.  Why two goals?  First, my decision to choose break-even helps me take in the same amount of money to produce my second book.  Second, once I reach my break-even goal, it would be nice to add any profits made from my book’s sale as part of my business income.

    But first, I need to determine the costs to publish my next book.  After doing research, my estimated expenses for book cover design, editing, formatting, printing, and book launch marketing and public relations will be between $3,650 and $7,750.  Also, I plan to factor the royalty fees associated with print and ebooks on:

    Amazon (printed and Kindle) and Ingram Spark

    into my expenses.

    Self-publishing costs for my next book

     

    Obstacle #2 – Finding time to write my next book 

    Despite being laid-off when I wrote my first book, I still had a full schedule with family, church, and community activities.  During the book writing process for book #2, I have two new responsibilities:  (1) business owner and (2) community college instructor.

    So how do I find the time to write? Here’s my current formula:

    • Use a writing journal:  I’m using a journal this time to track both all writing and non-writing tasks needed to complete my book.
    • Schedule writing sessions: I schedule time on my calendar to write for a minimum of two hours per day.
    • Eliminate unnecessary distractions: Email and social media can wait until after I finish writing.
    • Plan for other distractions: It’s hard to put your family on hold during the book writing process. My schedule has enough flexibility to take care of my commitments involving family and friends.
    • Track my word count:  I didn’t do this last time, but I plan to keep track of my daily word count as a motivator and gauge to monitor my progress.

     

    Obstacle #3 — Creating a book production plan 

    Make a book writing plan

     

    As I mentioned before, my only goal with book #1 was to finish writing and publishing book #1.  For my next book, I created a book production plan using Trello.  One note about my plan:  one size does not fit all.  My project fits my needs and includes having a:

     

    • To-do List – I like to keep track of tasks I am working on.

     

     

    • Book Marketing Plan – This plan outlines my book launch plan, publicity, media, and marketing tactics.

     

    • Word Count Tracker – Before each of my writing sessions, I determine how many words I want to write using a word count tracker.

     

    Writer at work — Creating the perfect workspace. 

     

    I wrote my first book standing at my kitchen island.  Every morning after my workout, I would spend two hours writing in my kitchen. I know most people think writing in the kitchen is a bad idea, but I could write during a time of day when everyone was out of the house.  Sometimes I wrote more than two hours and in places other than the kitchen, but mostly all of my writing occurred while standing.

     

    Since the first book, I have a new writing space equipped with a standing desk and all the supplies I need to get the job done. Here’s a list of supplies to consider for your writing space:

    productive writing space
    AboveTEK Compact Standing Desk

    Writing journal

    Notebooks

    Folders

    Pens, pencils, markers

    Wall planner

    Timer

    Flash drive

    Post-It Notes

     

    Ready, set, write!

    I have my plan in place, and now I am ready to start outlining and gathering research for book #2.  Whether the plan works or not is yet to be seen.  But I’m excited and ready to go.

    If you are writing your next book or your first book and have questions, let me know if I can help.

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  • How To Master The Art Of Self Care As A Writer

    How To Master The Art Of Self Care As A Writer

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    THE ABCs OF SELF CARE FOR BUSY WRITERS

    Writing can take its toll on a writer. Whether you write full- or part-time, chances are you sometimes feel stressed.  At some point, we all need a little self-care

     

    So why is it so hard? I used to think I had to stay busy to look as if I was productive. For other writers, self-care means time away from writing, which leads to feeling guilty.

     

    But I learned to say goodbye to that way of thinking. Now when I take a break from writing to take care of myself, I return to my projects refreshed.

     

    In recent posts, I explored the benefits of having:

    The right attitude

    A successful mindset; and

    A renewed mind

     

    Today, I look for opportunities to include self-care into my writing life by remembering my ABCs.

    A IS FOR AFFIRM YOURSELF

     

    Write weekly affirmations

    Each week, write a statement of power to yourself. Remind yourself of your strengths as a writer and qualities as a person. Post the message where you can see it every day. Don’t want to use paper? Record your daily affirmation as a reminder on your smartphone. Schedule the message to appear on your phone a few times during the week.

     

    Make a ‘great job’ list

    There’s no need to wait for anyone to pat you on the back. When you finish a blog post or finish writing a book, add your accomplishment to a ‘great job’ list for the week. Post the list where you can see it often.

     

    Write in a self-care journal

    Take time every day to write about how you plan to take care of yourself.  For example, if you are working on an assignment from a client, use a self-care journal to record how and when you will take breaks or reward yourself.  You can also keep track of your fitness and wellness goals.  This petite journal fits easily into any bag to go where ever you go.  I use Erin Condren journals and planners.

     

    How to Master Self-Care As a Busy Writer

    Add a sporty writer’s t-shirt to your wardrobe or inspirational art to your writing space.

    B IS FOR BOOST YOUR BODY & BRAIN

     

    Read inspiring stories

    Take a break from writing to read inspirational articles or books.  Check out books on the NY Times Bestseller list.

     

    Learn something new

    An essential part of taking care of yourself means investing in your education. Read books to increase your knowledge about writing. Take courses, either in-person or online. Attend at least one writer’s conference per year. Last year I attended the Writer’s Digest Annual Conference. The event was full of great workshops, keynote speeches, and networking opportunities.

    Pamper yourself

    Take a break from writing to treat yourself to a mani/pedi or a massage.  Also, consider investing in a few tools that allow you to pamper yourself at home.  My personal favorite is the Shiatsu shoulder massager, which I started using over the summer. I love the roller balls and the bi-directional movement feature.

    Other helpful tools to consider:  Best full-body heating pad and foot massager.

    C IS FOR CARE & CREATIVITY

    Get some rest

    Despite the number of pages you want to write or your deadline, you need your rest. For me, my writing starts early in the morning. But by the end of the day, I am exhausted and too tired to think clearly to write. Whether you get up early or stay up late, don’t overdo it. Don’t deprive your body of sleep.

     

    Invest in Adult Coloring Books

    There is no better escape than coloring. Bright colored pens (see also ‘What Are the Best Pens For Journaling? 5 Top Choices‘), markers, and pencils bring adult coloring books to life. Coloring is a great way to relieve stress and create a calming environment after a long day.

    Angie Grace offers a relaxing line of adult coloring books focused on different topics such as balance, centered, or just plain WOW.

    How do you take care of yourself as a writer?

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    Tips on How to Master Self-Care as a Busy Writer

  • How to Unlock a Successful Writer’s Mindset

    How to Unlock a Successful Writer’s Mindset

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    For a writer, life is filled with ups and downs. Some weeks are a writer’s dream full of writing projects, and a nearly finished manuscript.  While other weeks are tough.  But the writing life is not just about struggles with content and clients.  For me, the main battle is sometimes in my mind.  I soon realized the need to build a successful writer’s mindset.

    Mostly every writer experiences some form of mental anxiety like fear, imposter syndrome, or self-doubt. Critiques of my writing send my mind wandering:  I wonder what that comment meant?  What do you mean you don’t get it?  I wonder if I should have written something else?

    In preparation for a college writing course I plan to teach, I decided to read, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck.

    In the book, Dr. Dweck highlights what it means to have a fixed mindset compared to a growth mindset.  While the person with the fixed mindset believes they have unchangeable talents and abilities, the person with the growth mindset believes they can improve their skills through learning and hard work.As a person who believes strongly in the growth mindset, I decided to write down a few things I would do to transform my mindset as a writer.  This is my personal checklist to help me deal with mental obstacles.  Some days I’m the heavy-weight champion of the world.  Other days, all I want to do is throw in the towel and go back to bed.

    I hope my list inspires you to identify your obstacles so you can create your own list.  More importantly, I hope you see you are not alone in your struggles with mindset.  But If I can be successful in writing a book despite my challenges, so can you!

    Here are 7 things I started doing to transform my mindset as a writer.

    1.  Embrace self-doubt

    Lots of people in lots of professions have doubts about their work. For me, I learned to embrace self-doubt as part of the writing process.  But I don’t let it derail me.  I quickly acknowledge my feelings and move on.

    2.  Write about your feelings

    As I learn to acknowledge self-doubt as a normal part of the creative process, I use my planner (see also ‘How To Use A Planner?‘) to make a note of my feelings.  You can use any notebook or journal (see also our article on junk journals) to record your thoughts. I use my LifePlanner, which includes lots of inspirational quotes and a page specifically designed to develop a new mindset.
    Erin Condren LifePlanner

    3.  Learn new skills

    The road to a new writer mindset includes learning new skills. Once I figured out the areas where I felt weak, I decided to read books, articles, and take courses.  With new knowledge came a new level of understanding.  For example, I improved my editing skills by reading  Take Your Writing to the Next Level: 20 Editing Tips from Professional Writers

    4.  Learn from other writers

    In addition to learning new skills, I also look for opportunities to learn from other writers.  I enjoy reading anything by Steven Pressfield, Bryan Hutchinson, Ann Hadley or Jeff Goins.  They offer great insight and knowledge from their writing experiences.

    5.  Build your writing community

    The writer’s journey can be lonely.  So I make an effort to meet other writers, either virtually or in person. By connecting with other writers, I can talk about my writing projects and learn about their writing experience.  For example, I recently met Wendi, a blogger who graciously allowed me to be a guest blogger on her amazing blog, Strength 4 Spouses.

    Build a Writing Community - Wendi and Karen6.  Add new weapons to your arsenal

    If one of your areas of self-doubt revolves around editing or proofreading, enlist the help of grammar tools like ProWritingAid and Grammarly

     

    7.  Rely on your faith

    When I feel self-doubt creeping in, prayer always works for me.

     

    How will you transform your mindset

    I hope this list inspires you to make your list.  It helps remind me that the key to overcoming self-doubt is a new mindset and positive thinking.

    If you ever need help or inspiration, I’m here for you.  Let me know in the comments how you work to unlock a successful mindset.

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  • How to Overcome Writer’s Block with 3 Easy Strategies

    How to Overcome Writer’s Block with 3 Easy Strategies

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    Have you ever had writer’s block?  Then you will enjoy today’s blog post by Mari McCarthy, author of Heal Your Self with Journaling Power. Mari offers three easy strategies on how to deal with writer’s block and get back on track.  Please share your thoughts in the comments section.

    how to overcome writer's block

    When you were starting as a writer, you might have thought writer’s block was something you would outgrow. Now you know better. That dreaded invisible barrier that traps brilliant ideas and keeps them hostage from the page isn’t just for newbie writers. It’s something we all struggle with from time to time.

    So why does writer’s block strike when you least expect it? Here are a few reasons:

    • You’re feeling anxious or insecure about your work
    • You’ve lost momentum or focus on your project
    • You’re tired, distracted or bored
    • Your high expectations and perfectionism are hindering your progress

     

    If you’re experiencing one or many of these sources of writer’s block, know that this situation is only temporary. You can and will overcome it. Think of these strategies as a toolbox you can use the next time you get stuck.

    Switch Gears

    If you’ve been laboring over the same paragraph for the last hour, give your brain a break. Move your body or get some fresh air – by stretching, doing yoga poses, or taking a walk. Then come back and write something completely different than what you were working on earlier. Brainstorm new ideas or dust off an old draft. Return to your original project with new energy.

    Face your fear

    Another name I use for writer’s block is “page fright.” It is often rooted in fear, though it can reveal itself in different ways – like perfectionism, self-criticism, anxiety, and stress. But if you hide from your fear and pretend it’s not there, it only gets stronger. When you face your fear and give it a name, you take back control. In a journal or notebook, write, “I am afraid…” at the top of a new page, and jot down anything you think of, no matter how silly or off the wall it seems. Just defining that you are afraid of failure or judgment helps you chip away at the page fright.

    Write through the block

    Do a short sprint of writing to hurdle your stumbling blocks and build up creative momentum. Set a timer for a few minutes, and commit to writing the entire time – no distractions or breaks. Then write! Keep going until the timer sounds, and celebrate this small but important victory.
    Mari McCarthy