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  • How to Conquer Change with the Help of Writing Therapy

    How to Conquer Change with the Help of Writing Therapy

    How to Conquer Change with the Help of Writing Therapy

    Everyone is facing change in this unprecedented time in history.  In recent posts, I focused on journaling,  survival, and following our dreams as a creative way to deal with the change many of us are facing.  To close out this series, I thought it would be important to explore how to conquer change using writing therapy. If you are using writing therapy to relieve stress or deal with change in your life, please share your experience to help others.

    Border for FREE 30 Writing Prompts to Calm Your Mind at the End of the DayThere’s a sense of panic in the air.

    With travel restrictions, job layoffs, and the loss of precious lives from every part of the world, more and more people are feeling overwhelmed by the global pandemic.

    During times like these, it’s good to talk to someone.  A recent discussion highlighted the urgent need to help people cope with disruption and loss, also known as “Adjustment Disorder.” Understandably, some people will need mental health treatment.

    While it may be necessary for some people to get mental health treatment, others may find relief through creative outlets like painting, knitting, drawing, or writing.

    Today’s post highlights the benefits of writing therapy and how to use it to conquer change.

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    What is Writing Therapy

    Writing therapy, sometimes referred to as journal therapy, relies on journaling exercises and prompts to improve mental health.  As a supplement to other types of mental health treatments, writing therapy is a creative tool that could help you deal with conflict and change.

    While writing therapy can be done with a therapist or in a group, you can also write on your own.  The main point of writing therapy is to allow creative expression to help us with mental health and healing.

    However, we shouldn’t think of writing therapy as merely writing in a journal.   The three differences between writing therapy and keeping a journal are:

     

    1. Writing therapy is more structured and involves exercises and prompts. Journal writing allows you to jot down thoughts using free form.
    2. Where journal writing involves recording events as they happen, writing therapy aims to highlight specific events and your response to those events.
    3. Keeping a journal or diary is usually private and personal. In contrast, writing therapy takes place with a licensed medical professional who works to guide you through your writing sessions.

     

    Understanding the Benefits of Writing Therapy

    If you currently keep a journal, then you understand how valuable journaling can be for you.  Journaling has helped me through many life experiences, good and no so good.

    Now examine how helpful writing therapy can be for anyone experiencing stressful life events like the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, or feelings of depression.  Research shows that people who wrote for at least 15 minutes, four days straight, saw improvements in their mental and emotional health after four months.

    As a result, writing therapy has proven effective in helping people through such conditions as:

    Anxiety
    Depression
    Posttraumatic stress disorder
    Grief and loss
    Obsessive-compulsive disorder
    Substance abuse
    Eating disorders
    Chronic illness
    Relationship issues
    Low self-esteem

    How to Start Writing for Therapy

    Overall, there are two ways to begin writing therapy – either with a mental health professional or on your own before meeting with a therapist.

    If you decide to begin writing before meeting a mental health professional, here are a few tips to help you prepare.

    • Find a writing format that works best for you. A few options are a journal, notebook, or an electronic writing app.
    • If you are motivated by color and design, you may want to add stickers and affirmation cards to your journal or notebook.
    • Find a quiet place where you can write.
    • Decide ahead of time how long you will write each time. Don’t feel pressured to write for hours.
    • Identify the topic you want to cover and why you decided to start writing.

     

     

    Remember, once you start writing:

    • Don’t worry about how long or how much you write.
    • Forget about grammar, style, and spelling.
    • Write as if no one will ever read what you wrote.

     

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    For your writing session, the Center for Journal Therapy suggests using the WRITE process which stands for:

    W – What will you write about? Identify what’s going on and how you feel. Be specific.

    R – Reflect on your writing topic. If necessary, close your eyes and take deep breaths.

    I – Investigate your feelings. If you are writing about feeling stressed, be honest with yourself as to why you feel stressed.

    T – Time yourself. Set a timer to write for 5 to 15 minutes. Make a note of the start time and end time at the top of the page.

    E – Exit your writing session by reading what you wrote.  Add a few sentences about what you notice about what you wrote and how you feel.

     

    Writing exercises and prompts

    There are many exercises and writing prompts to help you begin.  Here are a few examples:

    1. Write a letter to someone.
    2. Try writing a letter to your 10-year-old self about life as a grownup.
    3. Make a list of 100 items that relate to one topic or theme, like things that make you sad, things you love, or things you want to accomplish in life.
    4. Take 15 minutes to write about anything that pops in your mind.
    5. Mind mapping to explore your thoughts around a single topic or problem and everything that connects to it.
    6. Use personal photographs to write about what you were feeling or thinking in the photo.

     

     

    Finally, writing therapy is one way to deal with the anxiety that comes with change.  But it’s not for everyone.  You may find relief in other creative ways such as drawing, painting, and knitting.

    If you need help, please get support. Talk to a therapist.  Connect with your support systems like your spouse, family members, or friends.  Contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness Helpline at +1 (800) 950-6264.

     

    ABOUT THIS POST:  Thank you for reading this post.  This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, medical treatment, medication, or therapy. Always seek the advice of your doctor or a qualified mental health provider with questions about mental health symptoms or medical conditions.  Do not disregard professional psychological or medical advice or delay in seeking professional advice or treatment because of this post. 

    How to Conquer Change with the Help of Writing Therapy

  • How to Write a Book When You Feel Like Quitting

    How to Write a Book When You Feel Like Quitting

    How to Write You a Book When You Feel Like QuittingFor the past few weeks, we have focused on capturing our thoughts,  survival, and following our dreams.  Today, I am so pleased to present Joyce Shulman’s guest post on how to write a book.  Joyce is the author of Walk Your Way to Better.  Joyce offers advice on how we make our dreams of writing a book a reality.  Please share your thoughts in the comments. Enjoy!

     

     

    My cousin called me a few months ago. “I want to write a novel,” she said. She described the characters in detail and walked me through the plot. It had the potential to be a captivating story.

     

    “Go for it,” I said. “You’re a great writer, and it sounds like a great story.”

     

    Six weeks later, she called again. “So,” she began hesitantly. “How exactly do you write a book?” she asked. “Did you map it all out on index cards first, or do an outline or, well, how do you do it?”

     

    “You put your butt in the chair and write,” I said. “There is no magic formula.”

     

    Last week, another friend messaged me: “I have an idea for a book, and I’d love your opinion,” she said.

     

    We hopped on the phone the next morning, and she described the moment when the idea for her book came to her, fully formed, while she was sitting on her back porch, sipping a cup of coffee. The idea was compelling, and I told her so. “You should write this,” I said.

     

    “I know,” she said. “I want to, but I’m not sure I ever will,” she sighed.

     

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    How can you become inspired to write a book?

    Someone once said that everyone has one book inside them, and I believe that’s true. Ever since I published my first book, dozens of friends have confided that writing a book has been a long-time dream.

     

    The question is, how do you get inspired to do the work it takes to get hundreds of thousands of words on paper? How do you “find” the time? Where does the inspiration come from when you feel like quitting?

     

    I wish I had an easy answer for you. I wish there were a magic formula.

     

    Sadly, there’s not. Honestly, you just have to put your butt in the chair.

     

    But four things helped me get from the dream of publishing my first book to holding it in my hands fourteen months later.

     

    How to write a book when you feel like quitting

    Four steps to writing a book

    See the end.

    While you might not know the entire story and you certainly won’t know every word, you have to be able to picture the end. You have to know where you are going and what you want to build. You must have a vision of the structure of your book, whether it is in your head or on paper. You need to know where you are going, even if you aren’t 100% sure how you will get there.

     

    Commit to a doable daily word count.

    Six hundred words a day was my minimum, and that’s not a lot. And some days, those 600 words were crap. But some days, I got on a roll, and 600 words quickly became 1,000 words that I was proud of. But whatever it is, whatever you know you can do, you need to commit. Daily.

     

    Then get lost in the process.

    Then, you need to fall in love with the process. Okay, maybe fall in love is an overstatement. Some days, the empty white page will feel overwhelming, and the writing will feel like torture. But some days, the thoughts will come, and the words will flow. Hang on for those days.

     

    Don’t wait to find the time — you never will.

    If this is something you want to do, you will need to make the time. And that might be at 5:00 a.m. That might be what you do in the evenings instead of watching This is Us. Unless you are one of those rare people who happen to have an extra hour or two in each day — and if you are, I’ve never met you — you are going to have to make the time.

     

    A final thought. Writing a book is hard. Like, hard. Editing, formatting, publishing it is even harder. You will only get from where you sit right now to holding your book in your hands if it is something you want to do. But if it is, put your butt in the chair and get to work.

    Walk Your Way to BetterJoyce Shulman is the co-founder of Macaroni Kid, Pack Leader at 99 Walks, and author of Walk Your Way to Better. A serial entrepreneur, speaker, and confessed idea junkie, you can find her on Instagram at Joyce.r.shulman.

     

  • The Inspiration of Save the Cat! on Creatives

    The Inspiration of Save the Cat! on Creatives

    The Language of StorytellersAs a followup to my post, How to write a book with Save the Cat!, I am so pleased to present Jason Kolinsky’s guest post about storytelling and the inspiration of Save the Cat! on creatives.  Jason is a partner and the first Chief Marketing Officer for Save the Cat!  I hope you enjoy.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

     

     

    “Story is a puzzle. And getting all the pieces to fit just right… is the point of the job.”

     

    The quote is from the late and great Blake Snyder, screenwriter and best-selling author of Save the Cat!, who also coined the phrase “Save the Cat!”, which is the moment where we meet the hero and the hero does something—like saving a cat—that defines who he/she is and makes us, the audience, like them and want to go on their journey.

     

    Save the Cat! has inspired countless writers to cut through the noise and clearly focus on the sound of what makes a story tick. We can all relate to the fact that just one change in our story can have a ripple effect across the entirety of a novel or screenplay. It takes time and concentration, along with constant arranging and rearranging of all the details, to get the puzzle just right.

     

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    The Language of Storytellers

    Now with the recent arrival of another Amazon best-seller, Save the Cat! Writes a Novel, penned by the proficient author Jessica Brody, the impact of Save the Cat! on storytelling has been cemented for all writers interested in developing work for the stage, page, or screen.

     

    The approach and methodology of Save the Cat! has been so impactful, it’s become the shared language within the creative culture from the writer, to the writer’s room to board rooms.

     

    Featured on the cover of the New Yorker, mentioned in guilty pleasures like Netflix’s You, with nods in critically acclaimed favorites like Amazon’s The Romanoffs, Netflix’s Russian Doll, or on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert—even in fanboy culture like the animated series Teen Titans and among game developers who openly share their use of Save the Cat! to create and pull all the pieces of their narratives together, the impact of Save the Cat! is tangible.

    John Slattery and Amanda Peet in The Romanoffs

     

    Save the Cat! Resources

    If you have the innate desire to turn that idea into a story, Save the Cat! is the place to start and to go back to, over and over again. The site, www.savethecat.com, is filled with tips and tactics to help any writer organize and tighten their story. The Save the Cat! Story Structure Software is a virtual writer’s board to keep your story’s pieces together.

     

    Whatever you do, don’t give up. “The worst thing that can happen in screenwriting is not to finish. Half-written screenplays never sell.” – Blake Snyder

     

    About the Author:

    Jason Kolinsky is a partner and the first Chief Marketing Officer for Save the Cat!. Jason is a seasoned marketing leader who has won Cannes Lions and has held senior roles at world-class global communication agencies, McCann Worldgroup and BBDO/Proximity.

    About Save the Cat!

    Save the Cat!®  is the bestselling story methodology introduced by screenwriter Blake Snyder in 2005 with his first book, Save the Cat! The Last Screenwriting Book You’ll Ever Need. Snyder’s acclaimed ideas, methods, and software have provided thousands of writers with the resources they need to develop their screenplays and novels.
    The Inspiration of Save the Cat! on Creatives

  • Explore your writing dreams, and focus on success

    Explore your writing dreams, and focus on success

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    Forget About Fear, and Focus on Success

    As we turn our focus to creativity, I am so pleased to present Valerie Nifora’s guest post on what prevents people from following their dreams.  Valerie is the author of, I Asked the Wind: A Collection of Romantic Poetry.  I hope you enjoy.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

     

    I was tapping my pencil and staring out the window when a question someone asked me recently kept repeating in my head. She wanted to know what prevents people from following their dreams of becoming an author?

    Thinking hard about this question, the easy answers are:

    • lack of motivation,
    • not knowing how to start,
    • not having enough resources, or
    • required expertise.

     

    But, what I think it boils down to is one-word fear — fear of failure (granted), but more subtle is fear of success.

    WHERE DO DREAMS BEGIN?

    I can speak from my own experience, that it was my dream to be a published author. It all started in fourth grade when my teacher had us write a story and then bind it in a book. (My mother has it in a drawer somewhere where she keeps these things like most mothers.) Something very magical happened that day that carried in my heart quietly for about four decades.

    Oh, to be a published author with my name on the spine! I visualized that a lot and often. I would start and stop query letters. I would start and stop (and sometimes loose) manuscripts. And I would take every failed attempt because who among us isn’t used to failure?

    Explore your writing dreams, and focus on successFailure is a familiar friend. It sits next to you with one arm around your shoulder hovering between, “I told you so,” and “At least you tried.”

    But success? Goodness! Success is the popular girl at the party, and everyone wants to talk to her. Who wants that pressure?

    THE TRUTH ABOUT SUCCESS

    If we really think about it, many of us feel that success will change us or change our lives or make things different. So isn’t it easier not to bother? If you’re successful in achieving your dream well, then you’re accountable for it now. You own it. It’s yours.

    But here’s the part that I didn’t realize — doing the thing you dream about, actually doing it — even in small measures is enormously gratifying. If you don’t worry about succeeding at it (Not sure I’ll ever make NY Times Best Seller or Poet Laureate), somehow it comes. And it doesn’t matter how successful whatever your dream is — the joy of using your talents fulfills itself!

    So, I’m not sure what your dream is (big or small) go ahead and give it a go. And even if you can’t do it on a big scale and you have to do it “small,” so what — you did it. Stop worrying and just do it. The world will thank you for it.

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  • How to Create a Productive Writing Routine

    How to Create a Productive Writing Routine

    One of the biggest obstacles solopreneurs, freelance writers, bloggers, and entrepreneurs face is how to create a productive writing routine.

    Disclosure: This page contains affiliate links, which means I receive a small commission, at no extra cost to you, if you make a purchase using the links. Not only do you have to run your business, but you need to find time to write your first book or your next book.

    It’s easy to get overwhelmed and thrown off track.

    But how we view and manage our time requires a shift in mindset and behaviors. If you currently have a writing routine that is not working, here are five steps on how to fix it immediately.

    Do you wonder how some writers can write anywhere? When you travel with the right tools, you can get a lot done. Check out this list for ideas.

    A cluttered writing space can slow down your productivity.  Here are a few ideas on how to declutter and simplify your writing life.

    The infographic below offers five tips on how to create a productive writing routine. Are there other things you can do to establish a productive writing routine? Absolutely. The infographic highlights five steps to get you started.

    Feel free to share your ideas in the comments section.
    How to Create a Productive Writing Routine

  • Time to Reflect:  Time to Refresh Honored

    Time to Reflect: Time to Refresh Honored

    Female writer with notebook Time to Reflect: Time to Refresh Honored

     

    Since it’s been one year since I wrote my first book, Time to Refresh, I thought now would be a good time to reflect.

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    Expect the Unexpected

    When I started writing, Time to Refresh, I didn’t know what to expect.  All I knew was that God told me to write the book.

    I was driving home from the gym one morning thinking about being laid off.  While sitting at the light, a ton of thoughts flooded my mind.  What will I do with my time?  Why do layoffs bring fear and shame? Why is joblessness so hard to talk about?  How can I show people they can find peace in the midst of a job layoff?

    There were so many directions I could take the book, but God only wanted me to focus on one thing:  Be transformed by renewing your mind.

    I took  God’s command just as serious as Habakkuk did when God said,

    Write the vision. Make it clear on tablets so that anyone can read it quickly.  (Habakkuk 2:2).

    My prayer was this: Lord, teach me how to write this book so you will get the glory.

     

    Pressing Forward

    Before I started writing, I created an outline, researched Scriptures and information, and reviewed Bible study notes.  I wrote every day for a minimum of two hours while standing at my kitchen island. As I completed each chapter, I stood in awe of what God was doing through my hands.  I couldn’t believe I was actually writing my first book. I pressed forward every day, even on days when I didn’t want to until I finished.  Since writing my book, I created a 10-step guide to help others with their writing journey.

    Since releasing Time to Refresh to the world in August 2018, the response has been positive.  I enjoy hearing how the book is helping people deal with their challenges.  But more importantly, readers have told me the book is helping them see life through new eyes.  My response:  To God be the glory! (Galatians 1:5)

    A Brand-New Thing

    On November 13, 2019, my book was honored as a Finalist in the Religion: Christian Inspirational Category of the 2019 Best Book Awards sponsored by the American Book Fest.  According to Jeffrey Keen, President, and CEO of American Book Fest, this year’s contest yielded over 2,000 entries from mainstream and independent publishers, which were then narrowed down to over 400 winners and finalists.

    I am grateful for how far the book has come and how God is using it to speak to so many people. It is clear to me how God can use anyone and any challenge to inspire hope. I appreciate Isaiah 43:19:

    For I’m going to do a brand-new thing. See, I have already begun! Don’t you see it? I will make a road through the wilderness of the world for my people to go home, and create rivers for them in the desert!

    No matter what you are going through, trust God.  You never know what God has planned in the next chapter of your life.

    To God be the glory!

    Karen

     

    Time to Refresh with Best Book Award Seal